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11-21-2006, 04:27 PM
We just received word this morning, right before heading out the door for work, that my wife's mother passed away yesterday in Kenya. For those inclined to pray, my wife could really use it right now. We're looking for a reasonable plane ticket so she can go home for the funeral and I'm trying not to be the insensitive man at the moment. I don't know what to say, so I'm hoping I can at least be some comfort.

11-21-2006, 04:29 PM
sorry to hear about that my prayers go out to out you your wife and your family and her family hopefully she is in a better place now.

11-21-2006, 04:42 PM
sorry to hear that ORH.

11-21-2006, 04:47 PM
Prayers for you and yours, ORH.

11-21-2006, 04:51 PM
Sorry to hear that ORH

11-21-2006, 04:51 PM
Peace be with your wife's mother.

May patience be with both of your souls.

11-21-2006, 05:06 PM
I am real sorry to hear this, ORH. Prayers to you and your family.

Roy Tucker
11-21-2006, 05:21 PM
Sorry to hear about this ORH. It's a hard thing.

My sympathies and condolences to you, your wife, and the whole ORH family.

Johnny Footstool
11-21-2006, 05:23 PM
I know you and your wife will find the strength to make it through these tough times.

11-21-2006, 05:35 PM
Very sorry to hear this, ORH.

11-21-2006, 05:49 PM
Very sorry to hear about your loss, ORH. Our prayers are with you and your wife.

11-21-2006, 06:14 PM
You and your loved ones are in my thoughts, ORH.

11-21-2006, 06:58 PM
My condolences for your loss.

11-21-2006, 08:16 PM
Wow. You and your wife are in my prayers.

11-21-2006, 09:24 PM
Prayers and condolences ORH :(

11-21-2006, 09:41 PM
Thanks for all the kind words. Carren is doing better tonight than she was this morning. My emotions are somewhat jumbled at the moment. Any married man knows that seeing your wife sad is enough to tear you apart at times, and I will never forget the utter helplessness I felt this morning, just holding her and letting her cry, not having any words to say but somehow knowing that no words were needed.

It's strange for me because I never met my mother in law. I spoke with her a couple times, but her English was very limited and my knowledge of Swahili doesn't go beyond 4 or 5 words. It's a different dynamic, being married to an immigrant and only talking to her family occasionally but never meeting them in person. So yes, I am very sad and am going through something of a grief process, but it's a different kind of grief, more of a sympathy grief for my wife. I know that she is feeling a real pain here, a pain I cannot really relate to since I've not lost a parent. But I'm more sad because she is, rather than being sad in my own right, if that makes any sense. I'm sad that I will not get to meet my mother in law in this life, but that pales in comparison to the sadness of losing a parent. I guess all I can do is be here for her and share her grief as best I can. Well, that and take up more of the housework for a while as well.

Thanks again for the prayers and kind words.

11-21-2006, 09:50 PM
My prayers and condolences are with you and your wife ORH.

11-21-2006, 11:13 PM

Very sorry ORH, and best to you and your wife.

11-22-2006, 01:56 AM
My condolences to you and your family

11-22-2006, 06:55 AM
My condolences to you and your wife. Losing a parent is very tough. My prayers are to you.

11-22-2006, 07:06 AM
It's very tough ORH, I know. My wife's father and step-mother died in a car accident last February. My father-in-law lasted about 3 more hours in the hospital. So I was scrambling to get my wife on the next flight from El Paso to Eugene. I needed more time in El Paso to make arrangement for our kids and dogs. Putting my wife alone on the plane to fly several hours was one of the toughest things I had ever done.

My condolences to you and your family.