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Ltlabner
03-02-2007, 10:09 AM
With all of the pitched back and forth battles, one can *sometimes* get the idea that some of us here at RZ *might* have a hard time admitting when we are wrong.

For me personally, I don't have a problem admitting I'm wrong in some situations. For example, I was willing to admit I was wrong about BA reigning supreme mostly because I had no real attachement to the concept. Believe it or not, Mrs. Ltlabner has commented before that I am unusually willing to admit I was wrong long before she is about various marital issues and fights.

Other times, however, when I know that I am right about something I woln't let it go. Ever. (I know that might suprise some of you). Those situations are rare mostly. I had a highschool history teacher who had a question on a test where the 'correct' answer to the battle that represented the high tide of the confederacy was Vicksburg. Needless to say I made a big stink over that. In those cases it's very difficult for me to ever give in and admitt fault even just to placate the other person.

So with that I ask, how easy is it for you to admit you are wrong? Does it depend on the situation?

And be honest.

HumnHilghtFreel
03-02-2007, 10:25 AM
It definitely depends on what the situation is. Sometimes if it's a trivial matter where I'm just arguing with someone like a friend I won't let it go, even if I know I'm wrong because I like to get under their skin a bit and have fun with them.

When the situation comes up in something more serious like a relationship I'll be more inclined to admit that I was wrong if it's for the best. I can definitely be stubborn though.

15fan
03-02-2007, 10:29 AM
Yes Dear. You're right. I'm wrong. I'm sorry.

If I had a dime for every time I've trotted out that line, I'd be a very wealthy man.

MrCinatit
03-02-2007, 10:33 AM
I'm never wrong, and I have a worn out "edit" and "delete" key to prove it.

BRM
03-02-2007, 10:36 AM
Yes Dear. You're right. I'm wrong. I'm sorry.

If I had a dime for every time I've trotted out that line, I'd be a very wealthy man.

Same here. I find myself uttering those words even when I'm right, just to avoid arguing any further.

Johnny Footstool
03-02-2007, 10:53 AM
Sure, I can admit my mistakes. I was wrong about Bronson Arroyo being able to get his K/9 back to respectable levels, and I admitted it.

I make plenty of mistakes, and I'm usually quick to admit they were wrong. Then I can move on and not beat myself up about them.

SunDeck
03-02-2007, 10:56 AM
I defer to the knowledge of many, many posters on RZ, who have taught me a lot about the business of baseball. And generally, I don't come here to argue with people in the first place, but when I am wrong and someone points it out it just seems like common courtesy to admit it and thank them for the enlightenment. Unfortunately, many posters don't have the tact to either point things out in a friendly way or the bigness to admit when they're wrong. Naturally, matters of opinion are not the same as getting the facts straight, but I do think there are ways to differ without getting oneself or others all bent out of shape in the process.

Marriage has taught me this; to be tactful, to respect another's opinion and to understand that even when I am in the woods all by myself I am still probably wrong.

919191
03-02-2007, 01:36 PM
Heck, sometimes I don't just admit to being wrong, I assume it.:D

NYMoose
03-02-2007, 02:08 PM
Yes Dear. You're right. I'm wrong. I'm sorry.

If I had a dime for every time I've trotted out that line, I'd be a very wealthy man.

Yes we have a BINGO!!

vaticanplum
03-02-2007, 02:10 PM
Yes. It's one of my biggest faults.

I like debate, and I like backing up my own side of the debate whether or not it's technically correct. So I will continue to argue my own side for the sake of working my brain even if I KNOW I'm wrong.

I also have a real desire to do everything better than anybody else, so I get defensive if an implication is made that I didn't do something perfectly. I'm a picnic, basically.

Red Leader
03-02-2007, 02:10 PM
Heck, sometimes I don't just admit to being wrong, I assume it.:D

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

flyer85
03-02-2007, 02:12 PM
If it ever happens, I'll gladly admit it. :mooner:

BuckWoody
03-02-2007, 02:21 PM
I thought I was wrong once...but I was mistaken. ;)

I like SunDeck's thoughts on the matter. I don't have much trouble admitting I'm wrong (I have lots of practice) but when someone points it out in a rude or condescending manner, I tend to become a little more stubborn about it.

Roy Tucker
03-02-2007, 02:24 PM
It's one of my biggest faults as well. I have this unfortunate quality of genuinely thinking I'm always right.

It's not that I know I'm wrong and I keep arguing, it's more I just don't realize it.

It used to be that once it sunk through my thick skull that I was actually wrong, I'd be defensive and it was like pulling out an oak stump to get me to admit to it.

However, with my wife's help, I've gotten much better about it. She is very good about reminding me about all of my massive flaws :)

KronoRed
03-02-2007, 03:03 PM
It can be, but I find it's easier to not even try and be right, say nothing and let the obvious answer present itself ;)

Sweetstop
03-02-2007, 03:19 PM
Being a perfectionist, I definitely feel the need to always be right. However, as I age, my memory fails me much more often, my brain connections have gotten softer, and I have come to accept the fact that I will actually make a factual mistake on occasion.:D

I still have trouble suffering other fools, though.;)

RFS62
03-02-2007, 03:29 PM
I'm not sure. I'll have to try it sometime.

dougdirt
03-02-2007, 04:28 PM
What are you trying to say? I am never wrong.;)

texasdave
03-02-2007, 04:34 PM
I am never wrong. That is why I was chosen 2006 Time Magazine Person of the Year. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. :)

UKFlounder
03-02-2007, 07:38 PM
If anything, it's too easy to admit I'm wrong, and I probably need to stick up for my opinions a bit more at times.

In those various "personality" type exercises we occasionally do at work or online, I often am accuses of trying too hard to avoid confrontation, and I've had people in person and on the phone tell me "don't say you're sorry so often" during conversations.

GAC
03-03-2007, 04:37 AM
It's only human nature (ego) to resist humility with every fiber of our being. I have always been a firm believer in "pride goeth before a fall." And we can all sight many examples of this, whether within ourselves or in others. Over my lifetime I've definitely been "put in my place" numerous times. But in my lifetime the greatest example of the above has been Pete Rose. It built him up and got him where he wanted to be.... then it destroyed him.

TeamCasey
03-03-2007, 09:14 AM
I'll say I'm wrong even though I know I'm right, simply to avoid arguing. Too much negative energy.

RANDY IN INDY
03-03-2007, 11:32 AM
I'll say I'm wrong even though I know I'm right, simply to avoid arguing. Too much negative energy.

I've done that, many times to avoid the ensuing argument. My wife has a harder time with it than I do. It's simply easier to get it over with, even if I know that I am right, and really, that's all that matters.;)

creek14
03-03-2007, 01:06 PM
I bet the phrase I use most at work is "boy I screwed that up."

Well that and "bite me."

But if I'm right, I'll fight to the death.

WebScorpion
03-05-2007, 01:14 PM
It definitely depends on the situation. If I feel someone's life (or lives) may be at stake, I will argue my point until I am proven wrong beyond a shadow of a doubt. Otherwise, it's not really worth arguing. Being 'right' is really overrated...if that's what will bring the other person happiness, then I'll confess to wrongs whether real or imagined. On the other hand, if I believe the key to the other person's true eternal happiness is learning how to deal with being wrong, I will again argue my point endlessly, whether it be baseless or not.

You learn from your mistakes...how do you think I got so smart? ;)

TRF
03-05-2007, 01:52 PM
Yes Dear. You're right. I'm wrong. I'm sorry.

If I had a dime for every time I've trotted out that line, I'd be a very wealthy man.

ditto. and then some.

gonelong
03-05-2007, 11:40 PM
The older I get the easier it gets.

GL