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TRF
03-05-2007, 11:26 AM
My wife never visits this site, so I doubt she ever reads this.

We've had our ups and downs. The last 4 years have been rough, and we lost sight of each other. For a while we were like strangers lying in the same bed. But it has gotten a lot better.

We have been so focused on our oldest daughter. First it was cheerleading tryouts for the first time, then varsity the next year, then varsity again this year. Now it's tryouts again, but this time in College. Plus we are trying to deal with the fact that she is leaving. We have mixed feelings about that, pride, sadness, excitement.

We have been so focused on our son. It's his first year in high school, and he's had trouble adjusting. He can't seem to take a step back and absorb it all. His grades have been poor, mostly because he can never remember to turn in his work, or do it. What makes it so frustrating is his test grades are almost always A's.

We have been so focused on our youngest daughter. She's a ballerina. She has tremendous natural grace on the dance floor. She's generally quiet in class but can be a pill for us. She has also had some health issues. Like myself, she has asthma. She spent three days in the hospital with pneumonia, and likely could have been hospitalized 3 other times in the past year. But she's a delight to watch on stage.

We are behind on everything. A month behind on the house, more than a couple of months behind on credit cards, and the house isn't in the best shape. Plus, a kid is heading to college.

We have been focused on everything that matters except us. We collapse each night after school meetings, ballet, cheerleading practice, and we veg. My wife's head in my lap, I run my fingers through her hair for an hour or two. And after our youngest is put to bed and the older two drift to their rooms for the night we finally get the chance to talk. Sadly, I usually talk about work. Connie let's me know we can discuss other things than my work. Then we start talking about her job. We talk a lot about the kids.

And lately we talk about us. Not nearly as much as we should, but it's getting better.

I've had 13 years with Connie as my wife, 15 overall. There were days I'd rather forget, and moments that make me smile to this day. I don't like my wife everyday. Almost everyday yes, but not everyday. The same goes for her about me.

But I love her. Everyday.

Johnny Footstool
03-05-2007, 11:31 AM
Congratulations, TRF.

I hope your wife decides to pay this forum a visit and finds your wonderful love note waiting for her. It would be a shame if she never read those words.

TRF
03-05-2007, 12:01 PM
Honestly, I don't have the guts to show it to her. We have a very quiet evening planned. However instead of doing that we'll likely be sitting at home with the kids watching Heroes.

oh well. I'll sit a little closer to her, and hover a bit more than usual. And as much as our anniversary means to us, Our birthday, we have the same birthday, seems to be more important to us.

RedFanAlways1966
03-05-2007, 12:37 PM
Happy Anniversary, TRF. :)

Highlifeman21
03-05-2007, 12:43 PM
Honestly, I don't have the guts to show it to her. We have a very quiet evening planned. However instead of doing that we'll likely be sitting at home with the kids watching Heroes.

oh well. I'll sit a little closer to her, and hover a bit more than usual. And as much as our anniversary means to us, Our birthday, we have the same birthday, seems to be more important to us.

That's awesome!

The only other person I know that shares my birthday was my freshman roommate it college, which was weird and cool at the same time.

Rather than directly showing her the letter, casually leave it someplace for her to "find" it. I guarantee it would mean nothing short of the world to her.

Ltlabner
03-05-2007, 12:49 PM
Rather than directly showing her the letter, casually leave it someplace for her to "find" it. I guarantee it would mean nothing short of the world to her.

I agree. Not to be too personal, but why in the world wouldn't you have the guts to show her this. It's very heartfelt and loving IMO.

TRF
03-05-2007, 12:51 PM
Ya know, I really don't know. We usually reserve today for a good argument.

I suppose I could try something different. :)

KronoRed
03-05-2007, 12:55 PM
Congrats :)

RANDY IN INDY
03-05-2007, 12:56 PM
:beerme:

WebScorpion
03-05-2007, 01:19 PM
Come on, TRF! Just print it out and leave it with the mail or something. Tell her we made you do it. It was beautiful and most importantly it was from your heart...that's what she really wants from you on your anniversary. To hear from your heart.

Either way, Congratulations! :beerme:

Degenerate39
03-05-2007, 01:50 PM
Congradulations thats quite a feat these days.

Chip R
03-05-2007, 01:54 PM
Come on, TRF! Just print it out and leave it with the mail or something. Tell her we made you do it.


Yeah. Blame it on us. We can take it. :D Congratulations!

RFS62
03-05-2007, 02:00 PM
Congratulations TRF.

:beerme:

TRF
03-05-2007, 05:12 PM
Thanks.

13 down, 30 to go. :)

WVPacman
03-05-2007, 06:04 PM
Come on, TRF! Just print it out and leave it with the mail or something. Tell her we made you do it.

Yeah blame it on us tell her we MADE you do it!!! Whats she going to do to us TYPE US TO DEATH??:D

No seriously HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO YOU AND YOUR WIFE!!!!!!

Super_Barry11
03-05-2007, 06:18 PM
Congrats TRF!! I commend you and your wife for sticking together and staying true! I hope you have a great day!!!

GAC
03-05-2007, 07:59 PM
Will be married 25 years this June. Whenever my wife and I have a disagreement/argument I think what my life would be without her and the kids. It helps to maintain balance.

GIK
03-05-2007, 08:16 PM
Shoot, I've got nothing on you guys. 9 1/2 months here. :D

redsmetz
03-05-2007, 08:25 PM
TRF, congratulations. I just had lunch with a young guy whose been married for 7 months and I shared with him something I told my wife years ago when we were first married - and I'm sure you know this - marriage is work. It takes something everyday to choose again, to keep loving through the every day-ness. I know the feeling of being constantly behind, of getting the kids off to school etc. Our youngest will leave for college in the fall and then it's going to be very, very different.

It's been 25+ years now, not every day, as you said, the best, but I still choose her and love her all the same.

And we're in Spring Training now - when she could name more Cardinals than Reds, I knew it was time to get her into mid-season form. Every day now, I have her read the "meet the Red" column in the Enquirer. We have to have our priorities.

Good luck and enjoy the day!