Re: Some Little League advice really needed!!
Part of the problem is the culture of the affluent suburb. Success is rewarded to a huge extent. Being a jerk (as a child or adult) is tolerated if you are doing great. I really like the coach, but feel that he has some bias towards providing a successful team, and is willing to deal with garbage from his best players to acheive this. I think if he really hit hard on his best players, that the other players and parents would hold it against my son and my family.
The pathetic thing is that if he were on the crappy team we played last night, he would be the norm and not the exception.
While I agree about your assessment of coaching in an altruistic society, the role of coach in this setting is really a social standing type deal. Believe me, this keeps me up at nights. I want the best for my son. In my interests, the best would be to quit the team and not deal with the problems. However, he really wants to play and be a part of this team of kids. The social interaction is also really important for him.
Man, I want to be Jim Carrey in God Almighty.