Originally Posted by Tools of Ignorance
Well, I know he wants to play baseball. And I know if it isn't baseball, lacrosse, or soccer, he won't be playing with these kids. His soccer career has ended well before the World Cup. He doesn't like contact ruling out lacrosse. Baseball is it.
I will support him no matter what. That is not the issue. His baseball career is quite limited, I just don't think quitting because some kids are jerks is quite acceptable.
Tools of Ignorance,
You are RIGHT Quitting because some kids are jerks is NOT ACCEPTABLE.
IMO, I think some of you are missing the mark as far as competition. Winning is important and doing well at something is more important to a child self esteem then be labeled different because of a medical condition. Do you think that kids want to be different and looked at as someone who needs special help or leeway in order to compete in the same game? I would say, NO, they would be better server to overcome any short coming that they might have and succeed.
I would say to the coach and parents in a matter of fact way. Like “My child has Asperger, which is a form of Autism. We are working with him and want him to succeed despite this.” They will get it.
If you really want to help your son then teach him about the game, if you don't think that you have the knowledge then take him to games and watch as much baseball on TV that you possible can this summer. Talk about different situations in the game and what players do. Have him learn the cerebral aspects of the game, then learn how to use them in game type situations. You said that your kid is smart, so this should be easy for him to get the basics.
You say that your kid is uncoordinated, runs incredibly dorky and slow, fields poorly, throws like a girl, doesn’t get the basics and has base running errors.
I would say that the base running problem is probably the biggest problem at the 3rd grade level. Then I would work on the fielding and throwing aspects. Hopefully the running dorky and slow aspect will work it self out once he knows what to do on the base paths.
A lot of a child’s esteem is generated by how well they do in competition with other kids when they are growing up. Kids compare themselves on physical aspects like sports more than they do other areas of life. I doubt that they compare report cards; rather they might compare batting avg.
If I take my self back to when I was a kid I remember that summer time was play time. Above going to baseball practice and playing in little league, I went to baseball clinics for free through our town’s recreation department. (We didn’t have money for paid clinics, and I knew that so I didn’t ask) I played every day in competition with my brothers and friends. We competed in everything sports, card and board games, and games that we made up too. I was lucky to have older brothers that would push me to play better and be more competitive.
When I was a kid and we played back yard games of baseball or homerun derby or pickle and if there was a kid there that didn’t perform well enough and couldn’t compete with us because of age or skill or knowledge of the game we would say “DC”, for “Doesn’t Count”. Meaning if that kid game up to bat, then we said “DC” we would let the kid go through the motions and try, but his run or out didn’t count as far as the outcome of the game. Usually that kid would get out anyway and that didn’t count either. I know it sounds cruel, but they didn’t know that they were “DC”, they didn’t even know what “DC” meant. After awhile the competitive kids knew that and we didn’t even have to say “DC”. Don’t let your kid become a “DC”.
So if you really want to help your son, try and make sports and games more serious to him. I think that the trap that a lot of parents fall into is that they view it only as a game to have fun. Participation alone isn’t the answer. Participation as well as success is the key to developing a well rounded and healthy personality in a child. Winning and performing well and above the rest will do more for a child self esteem then just showing up and participating. Winning is fun. Being good at something that you do is fun. Getting made fun of by your peers isn’t fun. It breeds contentment and resentment for you, him and his peers.