Re: Some Little League advice really needed!!
This is what I tell the Little League players whom I coach: It takes all kinds of players to make a team. There are two ways a coach can coach--they can coach to win games or they can coach to teach the game. Sounds like your son's coach is the former. I aspire to be the latter but, alas, as my boy moves up from league to league with age, I find myself to be the exception and not the rule.
When players reach your son's age, most coaches try to define that level of competition as a "weeding out" age. There is some truth to that mindset. The fact is that if a player is going to quit playing the game of baseball for other interests (swimming, basketball, etc..) that decision will likely be made when that person first begins to face live pitching from an opposing player (not their own coach). That's simply the facts of Little League attrition and it is essentially a natural progression of growing up.
My whole problem with your team's scenario is that certain teammates (and coaches) seem to be trying to expedite your son's departure from the game in order to satisfy their own comfort levels. That should not be tolerated. Whether or not his teammates know your son has a disability is of no consequence in this matter. If your son WANTS to be on the field, he has a right to be there. On a personal note, I have a niece with Aspergers who plays competitive soccer and rides horses. I also have a nephew who is more profoundly autistic and plays baseball and basketball. Depending upon the degree of disability, one can always find the proper home for competitve sports. Let me give you an example:
My baseball league (South Lexington Youth Baseball) is affiliated and plays under the guidelines of Cal Ripken baseball. Needless to say, they take the game seriously on those ball fields. However, in about four weeks, the park is soon to unveil a brand new special baseball field at our ballpark built specifically for the Miracle League. This field will be made of a special surface (like a running track) to facilitate movement by wheelchair athletes. Literally anybody--with any type of disability--will be welcome to come on the field to play. Fields like this one are so scarce, that people will be traveling as much as six hours by car simply to come play on it.
Here's my point: This field isn't going to be pushed away somewhere to be forgotten. It is the crown jewel in an entire park-wide remodeling campaign. It will be situated directly in front of our brand new concession stand and handicapped accessible bathrooms. All of the other Cal Ripken Little League fields will be surrounding this Miracle League field and players of every ability level will get to watch each other play on a daily basis.
Hope things get better for your son very soon! God bless.
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