Originally Posted by TeamSelig
I agree Planned Parenthood should do a better job at giving the tests. Maybe they should offer blood work instead of urine analysis? I understand the circumstances and possibilities of a wrong reading that TC talked about, but IMO it is someones life and should be 110% every time.
Relationship w/ the mother is great. We were planning on getting married, and are actually doing it this Friday. This was decided pre-baby, in order to get some financial aid help for college next year. (FASFA deadline March 10th) We've only been together for a little under a year, but known each other and been friends for probably 4-5 years. Relationship with her parents is pretty good, our families have alot of history (good) and everyone seems to like me. Not sure how they will feel after all of this though.
Anyways, thanks again for all of the replies.
One of my buddies in high school was in a situation like you are in. Probably a little worse though because we were a year or so away from graduation and her parents knew nothing until she told them. They didn't even know she was "active." Anyway, it was complicated. The Dad immediately freaked out and made a bad situation worse. My friend drove over to this girl's house one night and talked with her parents in front of her. Told them he had still planned on going to college but would go part time and work full time if that's what it took. He told them that he didn't want to drop out of college, though, as he didn't think that would be beneficial long-term to anyone. He also asked her Dad for his permission to marry his daughter. He left her house that night and her parents respected him for his decisions, maturity, and respect towards them.
They now have 5 kids and the girls Dad and my friend are really good friends. They share a season ticket package to Dragon's games.
I guess what I'm saying is, if there is any strain in that relationship with her parents at all, sit down with them and talk to them. Make them understand that you're going to do everything in your power to be a good person, a good husband, and a good father. You don't want to start things off by having a bad relationship with her parents. That makes things wayyyyy difficult on your future wife. Her life is going to be complicated enough and stressful enough in the coming months. You don't need to do anything to add to it.
Just some advice.