Originally Posted by TeamSelig
how many months does that take (determining the sex)? I can't wait... also, is it normal to be terrified of a miscarriage? Every time the wife gets any cramps or anything I freak out, even though I know its normal. I think I will settle down after the 3 month time period (usually after that miscarriages don't happen as much from what I read anyway)
First question: They have you wait until week 16 (4 months) to do the ultrasound to determine the baby's sex.
Second: I think so. Well, I don't know for sure. I wasn't that worried about a miscarriage the first time through. After our first was born my wife had two miscarriages before our second was born, so I was concerned during that pregnancy obviously, and was just as concerned for this one. It is true that once you hit the 3 month mark the chances of a miscarriage goes way down. We recently celebrated making it past the 3 month mark. You really shouldn't "panic" or overly stress about a miscarriage, though. You need to remain calm so the Mom stays calm. It's in God's hands for the first three months.