It never ceases to amaze me how kids with the same genetic mix can have such completely different personalities. Your boy sounds like my 17-year old daughter. She's a dreamer and she loves to live in the moment, she has no clue what the future will bring and I really don't think she cares...yet. I watch and despair as she slowly closes one door after another on her future. She wants to be this or that depending on the moment, but she has pretty much destroyed her chances of going to any reputable college by failing classes and barely passing others. She seems to just want to get out of school and 'live', but I fear she has no idea what 'living' is like. She is extremely intelligent and works hard when her heart is in the work. It drives me completely crazy, but when I really think about it, that's just the way she is...it's not the way I would live my life, but then again, it's not my life it is HERS. She's a beautiful, fun-loving girl and she is just a blast to be around...really, I think she's going to have a great adventure of a life and she's going to enjoy every moment of it. So I just try to give her advice and enjoy being part of her life. I'll always be there for her and I make sure she knows that. She's my first child...the one who taught me what true unquestioning love is...I really didn't know what love was until I looked into her helpless little eyes 17 long years ago. Now, I just try to enjoy the gift that God gave me and understand the lessons he's trying to teach me through her. Sorry, didn't mean to get preachy, but I thought it might help you cope with the difficulties of dealing with your child/adult/teen. Every life is different, but we all get our share of pearls...try to appreciate the beauty as it passes through your life.