Wow. See this is the reason I posted this here. So, so many kind words and good, sound advice from all of you fantastic individuals. I truly can't thank you all enough, it's a positively beautiful thing that so many here are willing to help out others whom they've never met. Outstanding.
It would probably look too messy if I were to multi-quote here so I'll just post a general response to all of you. It is so nice that some, if not all of you that responded can relate to my situation. That is theraputic in itself. I guess I should clarify one thing about the whole thing with my Dad, I was gonna put this in last night but I figured it was long enough already.
He would most definitely understand if I went up to him today (I can't because he's out of town) and told him I want to go home. I think that, deep down he already knows anyways, however, I don't think he knows how much my mental well-being has been effected. The problem is, we have to keep working the business in an effort to help pay the bills until the place sells, and myself and my brother are the only employees. If I leave, he has to take on my duties, and our line of work is not cut out for a 67 year old man with a weak (ish) heart and two bad shoulders. I work for next to nothing, just enough to pay my personal bills, to help out his checkbook and he's still losing his rear end. It would be next to impossible, if not impossible, for him to hire and keep someone that would do the job that I am doing for what he could afford to pay them. So I guess my main concern isn't whether or not he would be disappointed in me or not, I know for a fact that he wouldn't. I just am concerned with the work that i would leave him with, even though we don't get many jobs, all it would take for him would to go on one, and it could be his last...if you know what I mean. If that were to happen, I would never forgive myself. My brother isn't in the same boat as I am, his family took the plunge and moved here, as his wife works for Proctor and Gamble and she just simply transferred, so it doesn't really matter to him whether or not we sell today, or next year.
My Dad is making his sacrifices too. He is still married to my Mom (40 years) and she is also in Ohio still as her Mother is 100 years old and needs some care. So she is kind of forced to stay there as well. My other brother is still there too, his wife doesn't have a very good job so he is the main breadwinner. With that in mind Dad told him to wait until we were making enough money here so he could provide for his family. So at this point, our entire (and very close) family is split apart. Half here in NC, and half in OH. I think this plays in to my state of mind as well, just not to the extent of being away from Denise.
LtAbner, first of all thank you for your response, to answer your question. There are several reasons that we're failing here. First and foremost, we bought a bad territory. Of course it seemed promising at first because it was growing, but the growth has stopped, and our phone hardly ever rings. Second, we have had absolutely ZERO luck in hiring people. If we hired someone that was qualified, experienced, and well-presented, they would quit within a week when they realized that the work they had to do wasn't worth what they were getting paid. Sadly, in hindsight, we should've ponied up and paid them a little more, but Dad was trying to save as much as possible. It's too late for that now, since like I said before, he's dipping into his retirement check just to pay the mortgage now. If we hired someone that would work for cheap, they without failure would come back with a criminal background when we ran a check. I don't mean little things, I'm talking attempted murder, armed robbery, etc...not the kind of person you want working for you in a business that you are in peoples homes, often unsupervised by the homwowner. The third factor, is the economy. We get paid by the homeowners insurance company, you have a water damage or a fire in your home, you call your insurance company and file a claim, we do the restoration, insurance company pays us for our work. Now, people are beginning to file their claims, get an estimate for the repairs, turning it into the insurance company, getting the check, and doing the repairs themselves. Results or quality of the work be damned. Now, people are CERTAINLY within their rights to do that, but it does leave us hung out to dry. Finally, the last factor...and probably the most important one. We all have been through so much that our hearts just aren't in it anymore. I want to go home, Dad wants to go home, and my brother wants to get a job again in the field he's educated in (advertising). One can only get kicked in the teeth so many times before you just throw your hands up and say "screw it". It just seems like, all the stuff that has happened in the year and a half that Dad has owned this thing, that it's just not meant to be. The signs are everywhere, and I see them, I think Dad sees them too.
To the rest of you. Dom, Steel, George Foster, Unassisted, Blimpie, Highlifeman, Kingspoint. Thank you again for your kind and helpful words, I think that this is what I needed to hear. My Dad gets back in town tonight. I think I may take a couple hours over the weekend and talk to him and at LEAST tell him how I've been feeling lately. I have been doing a very good job at hiding it since i didn't want to stress him out any more than he already is. If he knows how depressed I've become, he may tell me to get my butt in the car and go back to Ohio right away
, he loves his family more than anything, and I know he wouldn't want me to suffer. I will definitely keep you all updated as to what transpires from here on out.
Again. Thank you, thank you, thank you. All of you. It's people like you all that give mankind hope, and it shows that there is truly good, caring people around you if you look for it.