Re: Advice about a prodigal son needed
The toughest thing to do when a loved one is addicted to drugs or alcohol is accept that there is nothing you can do for them until they are willing to work on themselves. You should be there with love and support however you need to continue with your own lives and that means not "bailing" him out of jams or helping him to avoid the consequences of his actions. All you are doing with that behavior is enabling him and letting his sickness control your own life.
However, not only must you not try to avoid "episodes" you must also not FORCE episodes. That means don't try to start fights or "scare him straight". You have to be there as a parent and show love but you must draw a clear line and stick to it. Eventually, you will learn to say no when you get that 3AM phone call from him saying he is a few towns over without a car and needs a ride.
I wouldn't let him live with you. When his addiction returns he will steal and lie which you've even said has already happened. If possible look into rehab therapy or a halfway home as has been suggested. The important thing is to not let his sickness control your life or your other sons and family. Letting it strangle you too won't save your son, if anything it will make it worse.