Originally Posted by MWM
Well, I know the courts generally do not consider marital infidelity as a factor in custody debates for divorce with the belief that it doesn't affect their abilities as a parent. Once again I feel the need to point out that I'm not condoning what he's done. And I'd be making these same arguments even it were Arod who I can't stand. My only contention is that I don't think this makes him the great stan some are making him to be.
By that logic, anyone who's in a marriage that winds up in divorce (aka broken home) is a pathetic father. It's just not reality. Fact is, none of us really know the first thing about their marriage. It doesn't make his actions right, but in the real world things are rarely as they appear to be from the outside. People that want to make sweeping judgements about the entire character of a person based on the fact that they can't turn down sex with beautiful women, be my guest. I'm not going to.
I see both sides- this is a good summation. To macro's point- this sort of thing is not about just having sex with beautiful women. It's about lying about your whereabouts, secret phone calls, endangering the health of you spouse (I mean, did he wear condoms every single time?) and all the other deceptive actions that go along with this sort of thing. I mean, he used his bodyguards to get women. Normally the person being cheated is hurt by the sex, but to an even greater degree is hurt by all the lies that inherently go with it. This may be filed under "Just being a guy" to Tiger but this has enormous consequences on other people. Think about how embarrassed his kids are at school or how Elin must feel going out in public, how haunted she must be by the imges of her husband being with close to a dozen other women. She is going to do some calendar searching and find out exactly where she was during the night's in question. She's going to have nightmares, racing thoughts- I mean, anyone who has ever had this happen to them knows how awful it is. It isn't something to take lightly.
To MWM's point you don't want to demonize someone or reduce their life to just this, especially when you are dealing with such a strong temptation like sexual desire that doesn't lend itself to reason and logic. A lot of men fail here, so there is something to be said about something so powerful that it makes you throw away things that are dear to you. Even though the acts are despicable, he's human, and he deserves forgiveness and understanding, provided he sees the wrong in what he does.
I hope the Woods' come to a resolution that can make everybody happy.
I just wish the media would stop counting women and talk more about why you don't do this sort of thing.