Originally Posted by The Operator
The fact that Sterger never reported this doesn't mean it was mutual to me. There are battered wives all over the place who don't want their husbands to be turned in, doesn't mean the beatings were mutual though. And sexual harrassment happens all the time in workplaces but goes unreported.
If it was mutual, I don't think she would have thrown the phone when he sent her the body part pictures. If it was mutual, I don't think she would have said "I'd end up in a river" about being with someone like him.
The tone of his voice on the voicemail after the "river" comment says it all to me. He was preying on her.
She probably didn't go forward because she didn't want to be "that woman" who blows the whistle on the big athlete. Happens plenty. She probably didn't want her name associated with it at all, if she could get it to blow over. And since it did, for the most part, that's why she probably didn't want deadspin to run the story 2 years later.
I think we both agree it's still inconclusive, and I think anyone could take what they wanted out of what we're given. I still wouldn't change my view, even if he did this unsolicited, only because of the stance I have on letting the teams decide but most certainly my opinion of him will change somewhat if he did that completely against her wishes.
What I worry about, though, is if the NFL investigates this, as they clearly will, even if they find it to be somewhat consensual, they're not just going to drop everything and leave it alone. And that's still a problem I have with the whole thing.
I still come back to the issue of payment. That someone was looking to make money off the story is making me highly skeptical. They say it's not her, but clearly she consented to allowing this information to be shared and had to hand it over to someone, to thereby make money off it. Just doesn't pass the smell test.