Originally Posted by TRF
I credit the members of this board, the owners and posters for a lot of what helped me in the most difficult time of my life. Reading the notes sent to me put much of it in perspective. And baseball is always an outlet, a way to distract me from dwelling on things i can't control by making me think about things i can't control.
But it is still kinda hard for me, thinking about what i almost lost forever, what i would have missed out on. What is worse is there are times i still think about it. BUt when i do, i try to think about my kids and all that I'd miss. It may not always snap me bag, but it eases me back.
Too bad you don't live here in Cincinnati. I'd suggest some get togethers at the Reds games and I'd volunteer to be the first one to spend an evening at GABP with you! We'd talk baseball and ease into other subjects as you desired. Sports are a great escape and we need not apologize for that; we need to accept it and use them.
You need to seek out opportunities to socialize. By this I mean, you've got to make it happen. Us guys don't generally take the initiative to plan stuff but we'll gladly go if invited. Just because you're not invited to stuff doesn't mean you don't have friends. Let me present you with a specific suggestion:
My softball team "retired" a few years ago but now every few weeks/months we send out an e-mail like "who's up for wings on Thursday night at 7pm at BW3s/Hooters/whatever?" Send it out to the entire team via e-mail and you'll likely get 4 or 5 enthusiastic yeses. Some drink beer; some drink pop; some order wings; some order sandwiches; some are married; some are single but it's an all guys thing and we shoot the breeze about eveything from sports to local happenings in the area.
So send out an e-mail suggesting such a thing to any group you choose, your softball team, work team. whatever. The folks who receive it will be glad you started such a thing. Hope that helps!