Originally Posted by bigredmechanism
I think the polls show that even as we are more modernized, the traditional gender roles are still generally in place. When I take a girl out to dinner, I expect to pick up the check. I wouldn't refuse to let her pay if she offers, but asking for the check is my default position.
Is it really that, or is it that being unemployed is seen as a proxy for being a loser in general? Women see "unemployed" and they think of a guy who's irresponsible/selfish/flakey/etc. I'm sure some people would say that's unfair, but there's tons of men out there, and women have to narrow the field somehow. Love is war, you know.
Of course, there's also the "Cinderella" syndrome, whereby every woman thinks they're going to get some shining prince, but eventually settle down with a normal, flawed guy once years of failure teach them they ain't exactly a princess themselves.