Re: Tough Love or Too Much?
I'm not going to discount the pain felt by losing her Uncle 15 months ago, but as someone who lost their own mother at the same age, you have to learn to move on with your life.
By the time they are 13 I'm of the belief that the influence parents can have is basically none going forward. What kids do between about 13-21 doesn't have much to do with the quality of parenting at that moment, it has to do with the parenting that was done from 0-13. And even with good parenting, kids will make poor choices and go down bad roads. Do what you can, but if you didn't lay the groundwork it really gets out of your hands.
We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.