Re: Tough Love or Too Much?
I think the answer to this is pretty simple. If you value having kids with good grades over raising kids who are emotionally healthy, then this is probably a good method. If both are important to you, then I would suggest an alternative method.
The consequences of shame-based parenting are fairly well documented. Even if your kid is thick skinned, this will have some kind of negative effect on just about any kid.
But.... if you're going to go "all in" with shame-based parenting, maybe take a lesson from this guy:
How, then, are those people of the future—who are taking steroids every day—going to look back on baseball players who used steroids? They're going to look back on them as pioneers. They're going to look back at it and say "So what?" - Bill James, Cooperstown and the 'Roids