I'm only addressing only this part since the rest was directed specifically at Sea Ray.
Originally Posted by jojo
Mods have a craptastic job. They deserve a little benefit of the doubt when it comes to second guessing how they'd prefer to discuss the rational for moderation-they might just know something that you don't appreciate yet.
Maybe you're right and there IS a reason why dabvu2498 can't post an explanation in that forum so everyone that frequents that (private) forum has a better understanding of what is, and isn't, acceptable. I can't think of one but, who knows, maybe there is one.
I understand firsthand that being a mod is a thankless job where you have to deal with people that either don't, or can't, be civil. That shouldn't mean you should sink to their level. Jojo, I can understand if you think Sea Ray was out of line. I just don't think dabvu2498 really handled the situation any better.