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    NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    I do the Domino's "small" thing...

    http://www.nytimes.com/2005/03/15/ny...icle_popular_3

    March 15, 2005
    No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances
    By IAN URBINA

    When Seth Shepsle goes to Starbucks, he orders a "medium" because "grande" - as the coffee company calls the size, the one between big and small - annoys him.

    Meg Daniel presses zero whenever she hears a computerized operator on the telephone so that she can talk to a real person. "Just because they want a computer to handle me doesn't mean I have to play along," she said.

    When subscription cards fall from magazines Andrew Kirk is reading, he stacks them in a pile at the corner of his desk. At the end of each month, he puts them in the mail but leaves them blank so that the advertiser is forced to pay the business reply postage without gaining a new subscriber.

    Life can involve big hardships, like being fired or smashing up your car. There is only so much you can do about them. But far more prevalent - and perhaps in the long run just as insidious - are life's many little annoyances.

    These, you can do something about.

    To examine the little weapons people use for everyday survival is to be given a free guidebook on getting by, created by the millions who feel that they must. It is a case study in human inventiveness, with occasional juvenile and petty passages, and the originators of these tips are happy to share them.

    "They're an integral part of how people cope," said Prof. James C. Scott, who teaches anthropology and political science at Yale University, and the author of "Weapons of the Weak," about the feigned ignorance, foot-dragging and other techniques Malaysian peasants used to avoid cooperating with the arrival of new technology in the 1970's. "All societies have them, but they're successful only to the extent that they avoid open confrontation."

    The slow driver in fast traffic, the shopper with 50 coupons at the front of the checkout line and the telemarketer calling at dinner all inflict life's thousand little lashes. But some see these infractions as precious opportunities, rare chances for retribution in the face of forces beyond our control.

    Wesley A. Williams spent more than a year exacting his revenge against junk mailers. When signing up for a no-junk-mail list failed to stem the flow, he resorted to writing at the top of each unwanted item: "Not at this address. Return to sender." But the mail kept coming because the envelopes had "or current resident" on them, obligating mail carriers to deliver it, he said.

    Next, he began stuffing the mail back into the "business reply" envelope and sending it back so that the mailer would have to pay the postage. "That wasn't exacting a heavy enough cost from them for bothering me," said Mr. Williams, 35, a middle school science teacher who lives in Melrose, N.Y., near Albany.

    After checking with a postal clerk about the legality of stepping up his efforts, he began cutting up magazines, heavy bond paper, and small strips of sheet metal and stuffing them into the business reply envelopes that came with the junk packages.

    "You wouldn't believe how heavy I got some of these envelopes to weigh," said Mr. Williams, who added that he saw an immediate drop in the amount of arriving junk mail. A spokesman for the United States Postal Service, Gerald McKiernan, said that Mr. Williams's actions sounded legal, as long as the envelope was properly sealed.

    Sometimes, small acts of rebellion offer big doses of relief.

    "I've come to realize that I'm almost addicted to the sick little pleasure I get from lashing out at these things," said Mr. Kirk, 24, a freelance writer from Brooklyn who collects and returns magazine inserts.

    When ordering a pizza from Domino's, Mr. Kirk says he always requests a "small," knowing that he will be corrected and told that medium is the smallest available size. "It makes me feel better to point out that their word games aren't fooling anyone," he said.

    The Internet offers a booming trade to help with this type of annoyance-fighting behavior. For example, shared passwords to free Web sites are available at www.bugmenot.com to help people avoid dealing with long registration forms. To coexist with loud cellphone talkers, the Web offers hand-held jammers that, although illegal in the United States, can block all signals within a 45-foot radius.

    Mitch Altman, a 48-year old inventor living in San Francisco, said that in the last three months he has sold about 30,000 of his key-chain-size zappers called TV-B-Gone, which can be used discreetly to switch off televisions in public places. "When you go to a restaurant to talk with friends, why should you have to deal with the distraction of a ceiling-mounted television?" Mr. Altman said.

    Some Web sites specialize in arming people against online annoyances. The site www.slashdot.org posted the name and the mailing address of one of the worst known spammers, encouraging people to sign the spammer up for catalogs and other junk mail to be sent to the spammer's home. Mr. McKiernan of the Postal Service said that this tactic also appeared to be legal, but might constitute harassment.

    Some groups are more frustrated than others. In 2002, Harris Interactive, a market research group based in Rochester, conducted a phone survey called the Daily Hassle Scale that asked 1,010 people to rank the aggravations they faced in a typical day. The survey found that poor people and African-Americans suffer the most stress from the everyday annoyances such as noisy neighbors, telemarketers and pressure at work, but it did not explain why.

    Sometimes, the resistance to these frustrations is organized.

    Work slowdowns are methods commonly used by labor unions to apply pressure without actually striking. During the Solidarity movement in Poland, people expressed their disapproval of the government-run news media by taking a walk with their hats on backward at exactly 6 p.m. when the state news program started. When the government noticed the trend, it issued curfews, but people then put their televisions in their windows facing outward so that only the police walking the streets would see the broadcasts.

    "You have to remember, in Poland during those years showing up drunk at work was seen as a patriotic act because people hated the bosses so much," Professor Scott said.

    But even on less coordinated levels, shared frustration is often the augur of countercultural trends. Mr. Shepsle said he took great solace in discovering his irritations with Starbucks' lingo summed up on a popular T-shirt in Chicago. The shirt, which mocks the pretentiousness of a certain Chicago neighborhood, features two names. Next to Lincoln Park it says "Tall, Grande, Venti." Next to Wicker Park it says "Small, Medium, Large."

    "It's nice to know I'm not alone," said Mr. Shepsle, 28, who works for a theater company in Manhattan.

    Most people participate in this sort of behavior on some level, Professor Scott said, adding that his own habit was to write "England" rather than "United Kingdom" on letters he sends to his British friends. He described this as his way of disregarding British claims to Wales and Scotland.

    "As a tactic, it doesn't amount to much except a way to provide a tiny and private sense of satisfaction," he said. "But that's something."

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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    When subscription cards fall from magazines Andrew Kirk is reading, he stacks them in a pile at the corner of his desk. At the end of each month, he puts them in the mail but leaves them blank so that the advertiser is forced to pay the business reply postage without gaining a new subscriber.
    I like that one.
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    Mitch Altman, a 48-year old inventor living in San Francisco, said that in the last three months he has sold about 30,000 of his key-chain-size zappers called TV-B-Gone, which can be used discreetly to switch off televisions in public places. "When you go to a restaurant to talk with friends, why should you have to deal with the distraction of a ceiling-mounted television?" Mr. Altman said.
    This is my favorite. There's nothing more pleasurable than going to a small diner and reading a newspaper with your meal. Except when a rerun of "Friends" is blaring.
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    I like this. I think I'm going to start sending them my recycling.

    Next, he began stuffing the mail back into the "business reply" envelope and sending it back so that the mailer would have to pay the postage. "That wasn't exacting a heavy enough cost from them for bothering me," said Mr. Williams, 35, a middle school science teacher who lives in Melrose, N.Y., near Albany.

    After checking with a postal clerk about the legality of stepping up his efforts, he began cutting up magazines, heavy bond paper, and small strips of sheet metal and stuffing them into the business reply envelopes that came with the junk packages.

    "You wouldn't believe how heavy I got some of these envelopes to weigh," said Mr. Williams, who added that he saw an immediate drop in the amount of arriving junk mail. A spokesman for the United States Postal Service, Gerald McKiernan, said that Mr. Williams's actions sounded legal, as long as the envelope was properly sealed.

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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    Quote Originally Posted by Roy Tucker
    I do the Domino's "small" thing...

    Mitch Altman, a 48-year old inventor living in San Francisco, said that in the last three months he has sold about 30,000 of his key-chain-size zappers called TV-B-Gone, which can be used discreetly to switch off televisions in public places. "When you go to a restaurant to talk with friends, why should you have to deal with the distraction of a ceiling-mounted television?" Mr. Altman said.
    People like this really get under my skin. This guy has no right to interfer with the way a restuarant is running their business. If I owned a place and someone did something like that, I'd grab 'em by the ear and toss 'em out on the street.

    What about the guy that went to the restuarant to watch TV while he eats? I frequent a few places during lunch-time mainly because they have CNN/Fox News or ESPN/Fox Sports on.

    Find a restaurant without a TV or stay at home you turd.

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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    I like to go to Starbucks and say "do you have a "medium coffee" here? Is that up there on the menu somewhere? I can't tell."

    When I order a Diet Pepsi and they say "we have Diet Coke, is that OK?", I sometimes say "no". Even though I really don't care. I just like to cause the wait staff to blink in astonishment and see how they recover. If I'm in an ornery mood that is.

    Sometimes my wife pretends that she doesn't know me.

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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    Mitch Altman, a 48-year old inventor living in San Francisco, said that in the last three months he has sold about 30,000 of his key-chain-size zappers called TV-B-Gone, which can be used discreetly to switch off televisions in public places. "When you go to a restaurant to talk with friends, why should you have to deal with the distraction of a ceiling-mounted television?" Mr. Altman said.
    That's extremely inconsiderate. "I'm in a public place, and I don't like something, so rather than ignore it, I'll prevent everyone else from enjoying it."

    In 2002, Harris Interactive, a market research group based in Rochester, conducted a phone survey called the Daily Hassle Scale that asked 1,010 people to rank the aggravations they faced in a typical day.
    Doesn't that seem ironic?
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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    My father-in-law looks at the menus quickly once we arrive to find out the sodas that the eatery carries. He's hoping they carry Pepsi, because he won't drink Pepsi products and purposely orders Diet Coke knowing that they won't have it.

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    Find a restaurant without a TV or stay at home you turd.
    It's getting to be impossible. Newspaper's a quarter.
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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    I did the Business Reply envelope stuffing trick for a while.

    I want a TV device that changes the channel.
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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    Quote Originally Posted by Rojo
    It's getting to be impossible. Newspaper's a quarter.
    I'll agree with that. Most fast food places have them now and the TV volume seems to on a slow rise up.

    (I know, I shouldn't be in a fast food restaurant to begin with)

    Call me old-fashioned. When I'm out to eat with someone, I want to have a conversation with them. TV is a great conversation killer.

    It's kind of like between innings at the GABP with the Jumbotron, stupid eye chart contests, video clips, blaring music, etc.

    What happened to good old conversation?

    And when did I become such a curmudgeon?

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    The device is a little devious. Better to let owner know that you won't return to their restaurant until the TV is turned off. Still.....if the gizmo escalates the issue.
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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    Quote Originally Posted by Roy Tucker
    I like to go to Starbucks and say "do you have a "medium coffee" here? Is that up there on the menu somewhere? I can't tell."

    When I order a Diet Pepsi and they say "we have Diet Coke, is that OK?", I sometimes say "no". Even though I really don't care. I just like to cause the wait staff to blink in astonishment and see how they recover. If I'm in an ornery mood that is.
    It is generally a good idea to never tick off a food service worker...things can happen. Just sayin.

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    Re: NY Times: No Need to Stew: A Few Tips to Cope With Life's Annoyances

    Quote Originally Posted by Red Heeler
    It is generally a good idea to never tick off a food service worker...things can happen. Just sayin.
    I'm gonna have to agree with you on that one. I am a server in a restaurant.... and when people are rude, needy, or annoying..... i let things happen. And I have ZERO problem doing so. Treat everyone with respect, usually when you are talking to a server, we have NO control over anything. We don't cook the food, we don't control the TV's and we don't control what kid of soda we carry. So when people give me trouble. I will not be so nice!
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    I'm convinced
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