I was visiting another forum, and saw a topic on wedding invitations, and specifically ones that read "No gifts please". Most over there stated that this was tacky and rude, since it is an obvious request for $ instead of gifts. At the same time, some of the same people said that if you register for gifts, that it was also rude and tacky to place a card inside the invitation to let people know where you registered at. How do you win?
And what about in the cases where one of those getting married (in my case, the groom) has already been married once, and already has the obligatory 3 blenders, 4 toasters, 2 punch bowls and several sets of dishes? There's not really anything else more that we would need in the line of gifts, should we not mention that?
I have heard of several honeymoon registries now available, and this was the direction we were thinking of going, but in this same thread, it was said that this too was tacky and rude.
Some over there said that when they see any of these things mentioned in an invitation, they either don't bring a gift or money (not that either should be expected, but still...) or they make a donation to a charity in the name of the couple or something similar.
What is the etiquette concerning invitations, and do you really think that requesting "no gifts please" is rude and tacky?