I have a personal situation that I would like to pose to the ladies of this forum. I don't know how many women peruse this forum, but I would think there would be a few. Guys, you're welcome to respond as well but I think the ladies will probably be able to answer this better.
Anyway...here goes. There is a girl that I used to work with at my job. We started out in the same department and I began about 9 months before she did and then she came on and we worked together for about 3.5 months before I moved on to a different division (same building and same floor).
Well, she was a taken woman when she started and she got married 6 months later. She also ended up moving to a different division and now works 2 aisles over from me. We still talk, though not as much as we used to because her current position doesn't allow for much personal phone calls and visiting. We usually shoot a few emails a day to each other and so on.
Even though I knew she was a taken girl when she started, I almost instantly fell for her. I had never met someone who had so many of the characteristics I was looking for in a woman. That said, I never indicated any of this to her because she was going to be married and I wasn't about to rock that boat.
So, the bombshell I received came about 2 weeks ago. She said she had something to tell me. In fact, she described it as her "drama." So she goes on to tell me that she is getting a divorce (married just over a year) and that she and her husband have been separated for almost 2 months. I was so totally shocked that I didn't know how to respond. That was about the last thing I expected her to say.
The stranger thing about the whole thing was that a little less than a week earlier she had asked me if I had a girlfriend (which I didn't) and then asked why and to keep her updated. I didn't think much about it b/c we would talk about those types of things from time to time. So now I'm wondering maybe that wasn't just a coincedence...or maybe it was.
Ok, so here's where I need your advice. I want to get her a little something for Christmas...something that just says "I'm thinking of you" or "I'm here if you need to talk." I don't want it to be too much. I want it to be a friendly gesture, not a "courting" gesture if you know what I mean.
I think there is a potential for us but I know that window might not be open until several months down the road. For now, I just want her to know that I'm here. She's a very smart girl though and I'm sure she already knew I liked her.
Anyway, so that's it. If you don't want to post anything here, you can PM me.
Thanks for listening.