Alcoholism Rehab

[jimbo]

Sea Ray, I wonder if the fact that he is not married, lives alone, and has no kids plays into your brother-in-law's continuous cycle of self-destruction? His falling off the wagon just may be his way of getting attention.

I'm 40 myself and am not married and do not have kids. I know at times in my life currently the loneliness and the extreme quiet of an empty house can be very difficult the deal with. I'm a social drinker and have never dabbled in drugs, but I can see where it would be an easy trap to fall into as it can be an escape from the loneliness.

It sounds to me he needs to find something in his life that will motivate him enough to make him realize he is leading down a path that will eventually kill him. That "something" is different for every person, whether it would be finding a good woman, finding religion, or whatever. He has to want it though.

I sincerely hope he finds his way. Keep us updated.

[Sea Ray]

Sea Ray, I wonder if the fact that he is not married, lives alone, and has no kids plays into your brother-in-law's continuous cycle of self-destruction? His falling off the wagon just may be his way of getting attention.

I'm 40 myself and am not married and do not have kids. I know at times in my life currently the loneliness and the extreme quiet of an empty house can be very difficult the deal with. I'm a social drinker and have never dabbled in drugs, but I can see where it would be an easy trap to fall into as it can be an escape from the loneliness.

It sounds to me he needs to find something in his life that will motivate him enough to make him realize he is leading down a path that will eventually kill him. That "something" is different for every person, whether it would be finding a good woman, finding religion, or whatever. He has to want it though.

I sincerely hope he finds his way. Keep us updated.

On the surface he seems to have plenty of friends and he always has a steady girlfriend but this one has had to endure a great deal. We've tried to convince her to move on but I think she has some codependency issues herself. But she's done a wonderful job getting him to the hospital both times and calling us as well. But you're right, I think something is severely missing from his life. Let's hope they sort that out in rehab.

Right now I'm suspicious of the decisions of the medical team at the hospital. I think they should have weaned him off of this Valium type drug they've given him and let him get on with his rehab (provided we can convince him to go). I don't think someone with addiction problems shoud be given a controlled substance for over a week. They still have not said how long they plan to keep him.

[SunDeck]

Wow, Sea Ray- this must be tough to endure. Best wishes to you and to your brother in law, who I hope can turn things around.