If Kanter wanted money, wouldn't he (and his family) have just taken the million bucks and gone pro? He was offered just that and didn't.
And to say you can't take money or you'll be denied NCAA eligibility is just plain wrong. You can take money. Almost every Division I athlete gets money from his school, in fact. (Remember, this is how John Selby is paying back the money he "owes" to the NCAA.)
So do many high schools. Kanter's father spent $20,000 on tutors and kept the rest in a bank account untouched. Why would he have known how much was permissable? Was there an NCAA person he could have contacted that would have helped him? (Hint: nope. Not one.)
Simply put, any argument that supports the idea that Kanter deserves to be ineligible while also supporting the idea that Selby deserves to play smacks of a double standard. You're either taking money (and thus, ineligible) or not taking money (and thus eligible).
Though, apparently, if your father pimps you out for $180,000 and you know nothing of it, it's okay.