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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Sorry to hear you're going through this, TRF. A couple of relatives of mine who are both around my age went through divorces... one went to a therapist and the other one kept mostly to herself. A couple years out from the divorces, the one who went to therapy is much happier and in a much better place than the other. Your mileage may vary, but IMO the therapy had a lot to do with the difference between my relatives. I hope you'll stick with it.

    Sounds like you could use a change of pace to give you something to look forward to. Try making a point to do something different every day that takes you away from your usual haunts and doesn't remind you of your situation. Doesn't have to be a big change or a radical one. Take a walk in a park you've never been to before. Go to the next town over and eat at a restaurant you've never been to.

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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Quote Originally Posted by TRF View Post
    I'm finally trying, because the alternative... is not to be here anymore.
    TRF, you talk about your actions making those around you miserable. I know you're hurting, but just think what this particular action would do to your wife and kids.

    I hope you find a way to heal, and I agree with those who say that therapy is a good idea. There's something about saying things out loud that makes them less scary and takes some of the gravity away. It also helps to remind yourself that you're not the only one who's ever suffered in this way. In addition, though I'm not one who believes a pill is the answer to everything, it's possible that an antidepressant combined with therapy could do you a world of good.

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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    its over. its actually over. i cant handle this, i dont want it.
    Suck it up cupcake.

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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Quote Originally Posted by TRF View Post
    its over. its actually over. i cant handle this, i dont want it.
    Hey, hey, hey TRF! I hope you aren't going down that dark path bro, please respond to this.
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Anyone have any contact info for TRF? His last post and blog entry worry me. Anyone heard anything?
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Agreed. If anyone knows TRF personally, now would be a good time to reach out and see how he's doing.

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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    i need help. she's filing and i can't breathe. i don't want to live anymore. i don't know what to do.
    Suck it up cupcake.

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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Quote Originally Posted by TRF View Post
    i need help. she's filing and i can't breathe. i don't want to live anymore. i don't know what to do.
    I hope this doesn't come off wrong but would you have the means to voluntarily commit yourself to psych hospital where you wouldn't be alone and give you direct access to help?
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Quote Originally Posted by TRF View Post
    i need help. she's filing and i can't breathe. i don't want to live anymore. i don't know what to do.
    No one can predict the future so its impossible to say what will happen with your relationship between you and your wife ultimately. At this point you probably don't have a lot of power regarding some of those decisions.

    That said... you still have a TON of power over most everything in your life. You can change your life starting the second you finish reading this. You make decisions. You can act, be, become any kind of man you want to be.

    You CAN do it.
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Echoing what everyone else is saying. TRF, try to slow down as much as you can. Please just try to get through one more day, and keep breathing. Know that you'll be able to find happiness again, even if you can't see that now.

    We're all thinking about you and sending whatever good thoughts we can.
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Quote Originally Posted by TRF View Post
    i need help. she's filing and i can't breathe. i don't want to live anymore. i don't know what to do.
    call you theropist right now. That's what he or she is there for.
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    You're not drowning, TRF. It's just life. We all have to go through stuff like this. You ARE strong enough, and you've got friends and family who love you and WANT to support you. Let them.

    And call your therapist immediately.
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Try to think of your 12 year old daughter and your son right now TRF. Put your focus there. And definitely call your therapist now!
    We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    Quote Originally Posted by Redsfaithful View Post
    Try to think of your 12 year old daughter and your son right now TRF. Put your focus there. And definitely call your therapist now!
    What he said.

    You really want them to go through the heartache of losing their father when they are so young? Get help now!
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    Re: How i screwed everything up.

    TRF get yourself help. Don't think like that. Your kids, ALL OF YOUR KIDS, need you. You can have another wife, girlfriend, relationship, they can only have one DAD. This is the most important thing I can say to you. I have seen families go through divorce and eventually suicide, the kids always suffer, no matter what their age. Be strong and be there for them. They WILL need you.
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