I understand. It's definitely different for everyone...but I think re-iterating the idea of enjoying the time you have, even if it just a few minutes a day, even if your surroundings aren't ideal, is always a bit helpful. There is a coping mechanism sometimes where people might romanticize self-torture/happiness-denial as a sign they are "working hard" or "doing what needs to be done" which is sad/scary considering how little time we get on this rock. Just throwing these ideas out there for people who might mis-read your post & similar posts as affirming that perspective!
Any new relationship is hard. Even if you are rolling in money. I don't envy people in that stage!
Last edited by Larry Schuler; 07-12-2012 at 07:38 PM.
Never saw this thread until just now and I haven't read through it yet.
I would say it would depend on the circumstances of his unemployment. If he's not working because he doesn't have a plan or just doesn't want to ...... then my answer is no. If he's unemployed because of some other life circumstances ..... layoff, illness, etc, then my answer is maybe. I'm the least materialistic woman I know. I don't need much in life other than a good book and a fishing pole. I don't need anyone to take care of me and I would not want someone that needs to be taken care of.
One thing I would NOT do is to get into a serious relationship with someone with a lot of debt. That sounds materialistic but I've worked hard all my life and I'm too selfish to inherit someone's debt. They'd have to clean that up before we ever talked about marraige, etc.
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