I've got three kids. Two are teenagers, and one can't wait to be called one (he's 12).
I'm kind of enjoying being a parent of teenagers and hearing their line of reasoning and excuses. Reminds me of..... ME!
Do they think their Mom and Dad came out of the womb as adults and don't realize that we've been there, and that their is no excuse, story, or line of crap they can throw at us that we didn't try to use when we were young?
Been there, done that!
My daughter (Rachel) is the "middle child", and while a good kid, is the worst of the broad. Her and her Mom butt heads alot. My wife, who comes from a very introverted family just can't understand her and gets frustrated.
I know where Rachel is coming from because she got her genes from my side of the family. I've told my wife "She's me with breasts" (try getting that image out of your head!).
She's strong-willed and has a huge independent streak in her. When she is told to do something she'll do it, but when she gets ready to do it. To her - whats it matter WHEN the dishes get put in the dishwasher, or the clothes folded, or her room cleaned, as long as it, at some point, gets done? And like me when I was her age, she can't wait to be an adult. But I've told her that there is probably nothing she can say or do that I'm probably not one step ahead of her. When she gets together with her cousin they are a scheming pair. My brother and I laugh and marvel when those two get together.
Anyway, she is 16 and got her driver's license last week. And of course she thought we were gonna just give her a car and cut her loose. And while she has more responsibility/freedom, and I understand she is excited about this, we have sat her down and reminded her that she is ONLY 16, and there are going to be restrictions until we feel she gains more experience and is comfortable driving.
One of our big concerns is liability. Ohio law states that a 16 yr old can only have one non-sibling passenger in the car. We have told her that for the time being she cannot have any passengers in her car, other then her siblings and certain situations where she gets our approval. We allow here to drive back and forth to school, which is only about 4 miles away, and also to go places and meet friends (movies, football games, etc).
In this "sue happy" age we live in, we're just concerned at this stage, and her being inexperienced. And it doesn't even have to be her fault. And we did up our liability insurance; but is it ever enough?
So what happens? One week after getting her license, my wife, who works 2nd shift, is leaving for work and passes Rachel coming home from school. And guess what my wife sees? Rachel with two other kids in the car. Not smart.
So my wife grounds her driving privileges for a week, and she's back to riding the school bus.
So I get up later on and have my Father-Daughter talk with her....
Dad (being coy): I heard you got your drving privileges revoked for a week?
Rachel (not wanting to give details): Yeah. Mom grounded me.
Dad: Why?
Rachel: I had kids in the car.
Dad: Why? Didn't we go over this?
Rachel: They were just with me OK??
Dad: What do you mean they were 'just with me'?
Rachel: They were just with me!
Dad: I know they were just with you, but what does that mean? Were you driving along and they weren't there, and then all of a sudden they were teleported into your car? Is there an option on that car the dealer didn't tell me about? Because I could save alot of money on gas!
Rachel (changing the subject): My driving instructor told me that the only time an officer will sight you for that passenger law is if they pull you over for something else.
Dad: I don't think that's correct; but you're willing to take that chance so the officer gets two for the price of one? That's a good day for him.
Rachel: Well, that's the law Dad, and I think you and Mom got it wrong.
Dad: Sweeheart. Remember. Parental law always supercedes state law in these instances. Enjoy the bus ride for the next week.