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TRF · 03-05-2007, 11:26 AM

My wife never visits this site, so I doubt she ever reads this.

We've had our ups and downs. The last 4 years have been rough, and we lost sight of each other. For a while we were like strangers lying in the same bed. But it has gotten a lot better.

We have been so focused on our oldest daughter. First it was cheerleading tryouts for the first time, then varsity the next year, then varsity again this year. Now it's tryouts again, but this time in College. Plus we are trying to deal with the fact that she is leaving. We have mixed feelings about that, pride, sadness, excitement.

We have been so focused on our son. It's his first year in high school, and he's had trouble adjusting. He can't seem to take a step back and absorb it all. His grades have been poor, mostly because he can never remember to turn in his work, or do it. What makes it so frustrating is his test grades are almost always A's.

We have been so focused on our youngest daughter. She's a ballerina. She has tremendous natural grace on the dance floor. She's generally quiet in class but can be a pill for us. She has also had some health issues. Like myself, she has asthma. She spent three days in the hospital with pneumonia, and likely could have been hospitalized 3 other times in the past year. But she's a delight to watch on stage.

We are behind on everything. A month behind on the house, more than a couple of months behind on credit cards, and the house isn't in the best shape. Plus, a kid is heading to college.

We have been focused on everything that matters except us. We collapse each night after school meetings, ballet, cheerleading practice, and we veg. My wife's head in my lap, I run my fingers through her hair for an hour or two. And after our youngest is put to bed and the older two drift to their rooms for the night we finally get the chance to talk. Sadly, I usually talk about work. Connie let's me know we can discuss other things than my work. Then we start talking about her job. We talk a lot about the kids.

And lately we talk about us. Not nearly as much as we should, but it's getting better.

I've had 13 years with Connie as my wife, 15 overall. There were days I'd rather forget, and moments that make me smile to this day. I don't like my wife everyday. Almost everyday yes, but not everyday. The same goes for her about me.

But I love her. Everyday.

Johnny Footstool · 03-05-2007, 11:31 AM

Congratulations, TRF.

I hope your wife decides to pay this forum a visit and finds your wonderful love note waiting for her. It would be a shame if she never read those words.

TRF · 03-05-2007, 12:01 PM

Honestly, I don't have the guts to show it to her. We have a very quiet evening planned. However instead of doing that we'll likely be sitting at home with the kids watching Heroes.

oh well. I'll sit a little closer to her, and hover a bit more than usual. And as much as our anniversary means to us, Our birthday, we have the same birthday, seems to be more important to us.

RedFanAlways1966 · 03-05-2007, 12:37 PM

Happy Anniversary, TRF.

Highlifeman21 · 03-05-2007, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by TRF

Honestly, I don't have the guts to show it to her. We have a very quiet evening planned. However instead of doing that we'll likely be sitting at home with the kids watching Heroes.

oh well. I'll sit a little closer to her, and hover a bit more than usual. And as much as our anniversary means to us, Our birthday, we have the same birthday, seems to be more important to us.

That's awesome!

The only other person I know that shares my birthday was my freshman roommate it college, which was weird and cool at the same time.

Rather than directly showing her the letter, casually leave it someplace for her to "find" it. I guarantee it would mean nothing short of the world to her.

Ltlabner · 03-05-2007, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Highlifeman21

Rather than directly showing her the letter, casually leave it someplace for her to "find" it. I guarantee it would mean nothing short of the world to her.

I agree. Not to be too personal, but why in the world wouldn't you have the guts to show her this. It's very heartfelt and loving IMO.

TRF · 03-05-2007, 12:51 PM

Ya know, I really don't know. We usually reserve today for a good argument.

I suppose I could try something different.

KronoRed · 03-05-2007, 12:55 PM

Congrats

RANDY IN INDY · 03-05-2007, 12:56 PM

WebScorpion · 03-05-2007, 01:19 PM

Come on, TRF! Just print it out and leave it with the mail or something. Tell her we made you do it. It was beautiful and most importantly it was from your heart...that's what she really wants from you on your anniversary. To hear from your heart.

Either way, Congratulations!

Degenerate39 · 03-05-2007, 01:50 PM

Congradulations thats quite a feat these days.

Chip R · 03-05-2007, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by WebScorpion

Come on, TRF! Just print it out and leave it with the mail or something. Tell her we made you do it.

Yeah. Blame it on us. We can take it.

Congratulations!

RFS62 · 03-05-2007, 02:00 PM

Congratulations TRF.

TRF · 03-05-2007, 05:12 PM

Thanks.

13 down, 30 to go.

WVPacman · 03-05-2007, 06:04 PM

Quote:

Come on, TRF! Just print it out and leave it with the mail or something. Tell her we made you do it.

Yeah blame it on us tell her we MADE you do it!!! Whats she going to do to us TYPE US TO DEATH??

No seriously HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO YOU AND YOUR WIFE!!!!!!

03-05-2007, 11:26 AM	#1
TRF Vavasor Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Amarillo, TX Posts: 12,676	Today is my 13th wedding anniversary My wife never visits this site, so I doubt she ever reads this. We've had our ups and downs. The last 4 years have been rough, and we lost sight of each other. For a while we were like strangers lying in the same bed. But it has gotten a lot better. We have been so focused on our oldest daughter. First it was cheerleading tryouts for the first time, then varsity the next year, then varsity again this year. Now it's tryouts again, but this time in College. Plus we are trying to deal with the fact that she is leaving. We have mixed feelings about that, pride, sadness, excitement. We have been so focused on our son. It's his first year in high school, and he's had trouble adjusting. He can't seem to take a step back and absorb it all. His grades have been poor, mostly because he can never remember to turn in his work, or do it. What makes it so frustrating is his test grades are almost always A's. We have been so focused on our youngest daughter. She's a ballerina. She has tremendous natural grace on the dance floor. She's generally quiet in class but can be a pill for us. She has also had some health issues. Like myself, she has asthma. She spent three days in the hospital with pneumonia, and likely could have been hospitalized 3 other times in the past year. But she's a delight to watch on stage. We are behind on everything. A month behind on the house, more than a couple of months behind on credit cards, and the house isn't in the best shape. Plus, a kid is heading to college. We have been focused on everything that matters except us. We collapse each night after school meetings, ballet, cheerleading practice, and we veg. My wife's head in my lap, I run my fingers through her hair for an hour or two. And after our youngest is put to bed and the older two drift to their rooms for the night we finally get the chance to talk. Sadly, I usually talk about work. Connie let's me know we can discuss other things than my work. Then we start talking about her job. We talk a lot about the kids. And lately we talk about us. Not nearly as much as we should, but it's getting better. I've had 13 years with Connie as my wife, 15 overall. There were days I'd rather forget, and moments that make me smile to this day. I don't like my wife everyday. Almost everyday yes, but not everyday. The same goes for her about me. But I love her. Everyday. __________________ "don't end up with a grandson with a dog collar." Last edited by TRF; 03-05-2007 at 12:54 PM.

03-05-2007, 11:31 AM	#2
Johnny Footstool Churlish Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Olathe, KS Posts: 13,664	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Congratulations, TRF. I hope your wife decides to pay this forum a visit and finds your wonderful love note waiting for her. It would be a shame if she never read those words. __________________ "I prefer books and movies where the conflict isn't of the extreme cannibal apocalypse variety I guess." Redsfaithful

03-05-2007, 12:01 PM	#3
TRF Vavasor Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Amarillo, TX Posts: 12,676	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Honestly, I don't have the guts to show it to her. We have a very quiet evening planned. However instead of doing that we'll likely be sitting at home with the kids watching Heroes. oh well. I'll sit a little closer to her, and hover a bit more than usual. And as much as our anniversary means to us, Our birthday, we have the same birthday, seems to be more important to us. __________________ "don't end up with a grandson with a dog collar."

03-05-2007, 12:37 PM	#4
RedFanAlways1966 For a Level Playing Field Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Oakwood, OH Posts: 11,242	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Happy Anniversary, TRF. __________________ Small market fan... always hoping, but never expecting.

03-05-2007, 12:51 PM	#7
TRF Vavasor Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Amarillo, TX Posts: 12,676	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Ya know, I really don't know. We usually reserve today for a good argument. I suppose I could try something different. __________________ "don't end up with a grandson with a dog collar."

03-05-2007, 12:55 PM	#8
KronoRed The Lineups stink. Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: West N. Carolina Posts: 55,342	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Congrats __________________ Go Gators!

03-05-2007, 12:56 PM	#9
RANDY IN INDY Matt's Dad Join Date: May 2000 Location: Brownsburg, Indiana Posts: 14,502	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary __________________ Talent is God Given: be humble. Fame is man given: be thankful. Conceit is self given: be careful. John Wooden

03-05-2007, 01:19 PM	#10
WebScorpion SERP deep cover ops Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: In the Ether Posts: 5,363	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Come on, TRF! Just print it out and leave it with the mail or something. Tell her we made you do it. It was beautiful and most importantly it was from your heart...that's what she really wants from you on your anniversary. To hear from your heart. Either way, Congratulations! __________________ "It doesn't get any better than this," --Marty Brennaman

03-05-2007, 01:50 PM	#11
Degenerate39 Senor Votto Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 7,847	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Congradulations thats quite a feat these days. __________________ Most Vottomatic Player

03-05-2007, 02:00 PM	#13
RFS62 Hey Cubs Fans Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: New York Posts: 16,567	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Congratulations TRF. __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~ Mark Twain

03-05-2007, 05:12 PM	#14
TRF Vavasor Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Amarillo, TX Posts: 12,676	Re: Today is my 13th wedding anniversary Thanks. 13 down, 30 to go. __________________ "don't end up with a grandson with a dog collar."

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