Rojo (10-22-2020)
Rojo (10-22-2020)
Rojo (10-22-2020)
Grocery stores around 7PM are still the best place to meet women by far.
Todd Gack (10-23-2020)
That's also a classic Happy Days episode.. introduced Lavern and Shirley
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0596133/
M2 (10-18-2020)
I'm not a system player. I am a system.
Bourgeois Zee (10-23-2020)
Just wanted to say again that I appreciate all the really thoughtful replies in regards to my situation, I’ve been re-reading them constantly and thinking about them a lot over the last few days. Just wanted to make sure that was known.
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I never saw that show, but it's probably accurate.
I met my gf a couple of years ago in Kroger. She was behind me in the checkout line, and I heard her say "Excuse me, but you are very handsome."
I turned around, and said, "Yeah, I get that a lot."
Pause.
"What about me?"
I turned around again and checked her out and said "You're a looker, for sure."
"Well, if you aren't married and don't have a girlfriend, maybe we could meet for coffee or something sometime?"
The rest is history. We've been together ever since. We got engaged, but will never get married because of financial reasons, but we are a good match. I drive her crazy now and then, but she adapts.
The problem my son has is that he’s a chef and works insane hours. They’ve cut back to the absolute bone to stay afloat. But the good news is he still has a job. So keep going to Rhinegeist and drink their beer and eat their OTR Chili. I told him the rest of it will happen when it does. Fate has a funny way of aligning the stars.
She used to wake me up with coffee ever morning
goreds2 (10-22-2020),HammerTime (10-20-2020),Rojo (10-22-2020)
Funny you mention that. I was just talking to another guy the other night that has had a hard time meeting someone, and I told him to just relax and let it happen. If you try too hard, women sense it and are put off by it. How many times has a guy started dating someone and then the women start coming out of the woodwork? It's because they are confident and relaxed and women love that.
goreds2 (10-22-2020)
Yep, that was pretty much the advice I gave him. I had to couch it softly because it was my wife and I having this conversation with him. I started to tell the story of when I was single and loved to cook so I’d invite women over and cook them dinner and a bottle of wine (or 2 or 3) but decided in midstream that maybe that wasn’t a good topic for my wife to hear. I managed to skate around it though. Obviously he is a great cook and does it as a hobby as well as a living. He’ll be fine.
She used to wake me up with coffee ever morning
Divorce sucks, and I would not recommend it for anyone unless they had reached a point of confidence the relationship needed to end. That said, fear of not being able to meet someone new should never stop someone from exiting a marriage. Divorce rates are astronomical....some marriages last less than 10 years, some around 10 years, 15 years, etc. The point is the "market" of single people of the preferred sex is being replenished every day of the week. It may happen fast or it may take a while...but if you make the effort, you will meet new people that you are interested in and are interested in you. Just be sure you have identified your own shortcomings in your initial marriage, and he/she has identified their shortcomings in their previous relationship....because if you fail to own those, then your new relationship will likely eventually end for similar reasons. Also, remember that everyone has "baggage" that is not 25 years old.....so don't allow your baggage keep you from being open to new relationships.
I saw someone mentioned earlier the grocery store is a good place to meet people...and they are correct, but I would add that common places like the grocery store, gym, etc. all can be good places, make sure you are going to those places in the right areas of town. For example, these places near nice condo's or upscale apartment complexes are much better most of the time than these locations in areas of town where older couples and families are more common. Just saying that condo's and nice apartments are prime real estate for divorced males and females. Even if you have to drive an extra mile or three, it is worth it....and get in the habit of looking for the ring or absence of the ring. That was something that never even crossed my mind in my early 20's, but became a requirement after my divorce.
“The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane.”― Marcus Aurelius
We'll go down in history as the first society that wouldn't save itself because it wasn't cost effective ~ Kurt Vonnegut
Rojo (10-22-2020)
There's something reductive and clinical about online dating. I mean here's the best pic I ever took and I went to this school and have this job and this hobby. Whatever.
People should meet in bars. You can see how they look in all facets, how they move, how they interact with others and if it's not match there's no "should we do this again" awkwardness.
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