I hear what you're saying and let me share with you my coping strategy:
Due to all the "rumors" and crazy ideas thrown around this time of year, I tend to not follow it until the deal is announced. How does a bigtime Reds fan do that? I get into football, both college and pro and also find a couple college basketball teams to follow. I find it highly unproductive to read potential lineups and rotations of fans' dream deals that 99.9% of the time don't happen.
I also don't get too worked up about deals that don't happen 'cause it takes more than one person to do a deal, be it a trade or a free agent signing. I DO get worked up about deals/signings that the Reds do pull off. Those are fair game for scrutiny. (Aroldis Chapman and the Dodger trade 2018 just to name a couple).